I've been quiet lately. Very quiet, which is kind of strange for me really. I'm sure many have noticed. I'd notice if I wasn't me. It's not conscious or purposeful, it just is. Maybe my mind is so overloaded with things right now that I don't know what to say so instead say nothing? That could be.
So much in my life has changed over the past 4 or 5 years and things keep on changing. Some things are coming full circle, others are growing and evolving, and still others are coming to an end. It's kind of scary and exciting all rolled into one. There are days when I am so happy and so excited about what lies ahead that I can't even contain myself. I burst with joy. Then there are days when I feel sad about what I'm leaving behind. Some of my decisions might be wrong, not what someone else would do, or end up being a disappointment to family or friends. But the thing is, I'm 46 years old and I cannot live my life based on how others will react to what I am doing. It's not who I am. I can't live my life for someone else. I can only live for me. If that sounds selfish, so be it, but that isn't the intent. The intent is to make myself happy. If I can't do that, who will? No one.
So often I've felt judged by people, judged on how I write, judged on how I look, judged on a decision I make. Judged by people I know, love or don't know at all. And I don't like that feeling. No one does. It makes you second guess yourself and if I've learned nothing else in my 4+ decades on this earth, it's to trust my own instincts.
I've joked to many that I think I'm going through a midlife crisis, but I don't really think that at all. It's funny to say it, but no. I don't believe that's it. I think that so much has happened that I have woken up to the fact that I don't have all the time in the world anymore. That differences that never used to matter, now seem to. That even though I never ever imagined I'd be here, that it feels so good and natural and maybe even how it should be. That the things I want, they matter and no one but me can make them happen. It might be a bumpy ride, but anything worthwhile is going to be.