tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post5085965505140353641..comments2023-10-23T13:05:06.346-04:00Comments on The World According to KC: ResentmentAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01218429214724604029noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-59345566206013601412013-02-20T08:02:01.941-05:002013-02-20T08:02:01.941-05:00Well G, I read this in January and couldn't th...Well G, I read this in January and couldn't think of a comment that wouldn't sound trite. I still can't, so I will tell you this. I felt a lot of resentment as SW's parents got older and sicker, years apart of course, but they relied on him, and because I was the wife, me for many years. It worked against us that we lived right next door. When his mother developed Alzheimer's and was with us day and night without respite, and he wouldn't mention to his sisters that he needed help and a break, I finally had enough. That, along with some other factors, contributed to me returning to travel nursing. It forced him to get the help from his sisters he needed, and they all worked well together I must say. And I got the experience of a lifetime. It was my first time in my life that I lived on my own, completely. And I feel like it might have saved our marriage.<br><br>So I can't give you advice, because I DID run away, in effect. But it was the right choice for me. I wish you luck with whatever choice you make G.xoCathy Tittlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02829421153829081513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-29638632943354236112013-02-03T13:30:31.720-05:002013-02-03T13:30:31.720-05:00thanks Muriel... I don't have the answers, but...thanks Muriel... I don't have the answers, but I do know that I won't let February become another January. January sucked, but Feb is already looking up :)<br>xoLaliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13569348127933434931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-90188825008825006352013-02-03T13:29:36.219-05:002013-02-03T13:29:36.219-05:00thanks Judy xoxothanks Judy xoxoLaliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13569348127933434931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-84112102823568646152013-02-03T13:29:13.516-05:002013-02-03T13:29:13.516-05:00Thanks Janine. I'm doing what I can to take c...Thanks Janine. I'm doing what I can to take care of me... it's difficult sometimes. I actually contemplated running away from home and leaving everything and everyone behind. But that's not truly me. I can't turn my back on my life and my responsibilities. But I have to tell you, it felt good to contemplate it.<br><br>Hugs xo I will look into it :)Laliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13569348127933434931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-58426573721309411992013-02-03T13:26:42.380-05:002013-02-03T13:26:42.380-05:00Thanks Joy. Very interesting quote and so very tr...Thanks Joy. Very interesting quote and so very true.<br>Hugs back! xo<br>Laliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13569348127933434931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-46852344717150823152013-02-03T13:25:45.701-05:002013-02-03T13:25:45.701-05:00Thanks Marie. I decided to go on a little trip, b...Thanks Marie. I decided to go on a little trip, by myself and visit some friends in different parts of New England. I leave soon! <br><br>Already on the learning a new skill thing and start my classes this week :)Laliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13569348127933434931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-15719825292890911492013-01-31T06:35:46.829-05:002013-01-31T06:35:46.829-05:00Having to take care of others (husband, parents, c...Having to take care of others (husband, parents, children) is, unfortunately, a huge part of women's life. And it is draining. Have you noticed: somehow it is, most of the time, women who end up caring for family members? It never stops. <br>Unfortunately, I don't have a solution for you. I can only tell you what worked for me: I moved out of France. I am only a short flight away (90 mins) from my parents/grandparents. This means that I can keep a safe distance between them and me. I am with them when they really need me and I will of course help with organising their care. But I try to have my own life. And I don't feel guilty about it.<br>Maybe you could try to find what works for you and, step by step, implement it. I wish you the best of luck.<br>MuMuGBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07669453005443249990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-28336237210354929882013-01-30T10:47:31.195-05:002013-01-30T10:47:31.195-05:00I too feel very badly for you. I also take care of...I too feel very badly for you. I also take care of my mom at my brother's house several days a week, and I really fight hard against any negative emotion. But the struggle will always be there. I really empathize with you and I send you so much love and hope that you will be able to deal with your tremendously difficult decision. And I hope your dad's health stabilizes. I send you blessings and love.judyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18377391982685515559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-5282418687166613122013-01-30T06:43:10.112-05:002013-01-30T06:43:10.112-05:00My heart bleeds for you. It's because you hav...My heart bleeds for you. It's because you have a conscious and a soul and that you aren't able to do anything for yourself that you feel this way. People constantly ask, demand, question, and leave it in your 'capable' hands but no one is looking after you - well, that's what it seems. I wish I was in the same country so I could just give you a big hug and give you a few hours off. Are there such a thing as carers in the US - people who come and step in for a few hours whilst the full-time carer can have a few hours off? Probably costs money huh?<br><br>Have you tried looking into things such as a virtual assistant. A VA who can work from home - just needs a computer, internet connection, ability to type and format stuff...you should look into it. No?Janine Ripperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15892641932257542854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-9168690582929744742013-01-29T18:43:55.616-05:002013-01-29T18:43:55.616-05:00I'm at a loss for words, but have to say that ...I'm at a loss for words, but have to say that I feel like giving you a hug right now. I can really feel your pain but sadly can't do anything 'real' to help. Perhaps I can only share these words with you. I heard them from Iyanla Vanzant and it's been on a post-it in front of me for months now. "You don't get a vote in how other people choose to live their lives." So true isn't it? It's kind of frustrating to a certain extent but also liberating because on the other side of that, we know that we do have control only over ourselves, our choices and actions. When you are ready, movement will happen. I believe in that. I wish you all the blessings I can give. *HUGS*Joy Page Manuelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00869379846706830802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4955247165501429698.post-31172609401795444072013-01-29T16:57:04.222-05:002013-01-29T16:57:04.222-05:00You're raw and feel this way for a reason. Do...You're raw and feel this way for a reason. Don't resent that. Instead, take time for you, even if it's something that seems frivolous. You can't control the uncontrollable in life like your parents health. So instead work on the things you can. Set small goals like learning a new skill. And work on attaining it one step at a time. I know that sounds trite and your troubles so daunting, it will take time, but you can be happy again!The Loerzelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11122641412197329551noreply@blogger.com